What is also consistently striking is the portrayal of marriage as being intrinsically sanctifying. As if people don’t get married for selfish reasons or use their spouse/children to validate themselves OR dominate their partner for self indulgent reasons (the latter being way more probable in Piper’s authoritarian image of marriage)
I haven’t had a read of Piper’s article here yet Dani (I will). But I always thought he positioned himself alongside you on this subject? Here’s a talk he gave which Rosaria Butterfield references in her books as very important for her journey. https://www.desiringgod.org/messages/single-in-christ
It also feels like such a weird, concerning vision of marriage. Surely we should be encouraging people to not enter marriages they know up front are likely to work poorly and should they find themselves in a difficult one to work on fixing the problems in their marriages that can fix and to healthily acknowledge and grieve the things that can’t be fixed, not engage in weird gasslighty the thing that’s obviously a problem is actually freedom rhetoric. It’s truly problematic how much Christian marriage and singleness advice primes people to accept dysfunctional, even abusive marriages
What is also consistently striking is the portrayal of marriage as being intrinsically sanctifying. As if people don’t get married for selfish reasons or use their spouse/children to validate themselves OR dominate their partner for self indulgent reasons (the latter being way more probable in Piper’s authoritarian image of marriage)
Nailed it.
I haven’t had a read of Piper’s article here yet Dani (I will). But I always thought he positioned himself alongside you on this subject? Here’s a talk he gave which Rosaria Butterfield references in her books as very important for her journey. https://www.desiringgod.org/messages/single-in-christ
It also feels like such a weird, concerning vision of marriage. Surely we should be encouraging people to not enter marriages they know up front are likely to work poorly and should they find themselves in a difficult one to work on fixing the problems in their marriages that can fix and to healthily acknowledge and grieve the things that can’t be fixed, not engage in weird gasslighty the thing that’s obviously a problem is actually freedom rhetoric. It’s truly problematic how much Christian marriage and singleness advice primes people to accept dysfunctional, even abusive marriages