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Dec 6, 2021Liked by Dani Treweek

Thank you so much for this article. This really helped me. Love from the US.

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Great stuff Dani. We see you!

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Can't wait to actually see you guys again... literally :)

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Neat! You honour each other John 5:44 KJV. I'll not be paying heed the request to share.

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Thanks for the encouragement to do so Albert. We will :) 1 Peter 2:17 & 1 Cor 12:26 (Any bible version you like)

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Interesting! I quote the words of our Lord and you reply in a very SydAng way; of focus on Paul.

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Brother, I replied with the words of Scripture. The Bible calls us to honour one another and honour God, both at the same time and the former as a result of the latter. I'm comfortable with that. It's absolutely fine for you to disagree with any part or all of my post and to express your disagreement. I welcome it. But let's not reduce disagreement to some silly tribal argy-bargy. All the best.

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This is...worrying. Not the article itself, but the fact that there's a reason for it to exist.

Is personal privacy just not a thing in Christian communities? Is the norm for any unknown thing to be probed with force? That's horrible. That's a lack of basic human decency.

I say, if you're in a community where this behaviour is accepted, even common, get out. Run fast and far, and don't look back. That is toxic. That will be a drain on your livelihood. That is not normal, and pulling on any available rope will get you a better community.

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Thanks for your comments Eleanor. It's not so much Christian communities at large which are depicting single Christians who remain open to marriage this way. Regrettably it is mainly other single Christians seeking to direct conversations about singleness in those communities along one exclusive path.

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Nov 25, 2021Liked by Dani Treweek

Someone with an atypical experience seeks to take ownership of the broad classification of that experience. That’s not much better, to be honest.

If your audience is the people causing problems, that I think is a missed opportunity to call them out, encourage them not to do these things. That’s what’s going to be effective in reducing that behaviour, in actually helping the people you’re trying to reach.

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"Someone with an atypical experience seeks to take ownership of the broad classification of that experience".

That's a really interesting and helpful insight. Thanks Eleanor.

It's not so much my audience who I think is contributing to this unhelpful narrative. Just some of those in the broader conversation who I'm seeking to engage with more directly in a bunch of my other posts on here :)

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